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Same-Sex Attraction, Identity, and the Church

How can the restored Church both teach that marriage is between a man and a woman and still love, include, and minister to people who experience same-sex attraction?

Bible

The Bible answers

Bible · Matthew 19:4–6

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King James Version

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

NRSVUE

He answered, “Have you not read that the one who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Our explanation

Jesus quotes Genesis as the creation intent.

Bible · John 13:34

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King James Version

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

NRSVUE

I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.

Book of Mormon

The Book of Mormon answers

2 Nephi 26:33

He inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness; and he denieth none that come unto him, black and white, bond and free, male and female; and he remembereth the heathen; and all are alike unto God, both Jew and Gentile.

Modern Revelation

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

Faithful answers

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

The restored Church reads Genesis and the words of the Savior as teaching a created order: male and female, marriage as a covenant of husband and wife, and the family as the setting in which God’s children are meant to be nurtured. That doctrine is not a culture war slogan. It is the framework of the plan of salvation. Same-sex attraction, as an inclination, is not treated as a sin. Sexual relations outside the marriage of a man and a woman are. Every member is commanded to love as Christ loved, which includes those whose attractions do not align with that covenant.

Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

  • Jesus Himself located marriage in the creation of male and female, not in later custom.
  • Same-sex attraction is not a sin; violating the law of chastity is, whether the temptation is heterosexual or homosexual.
  • Identity in the restored gospel is first ‘child of God,’ then disciple of Christ, not a sexual category.
  • Covenant members who experience same-sex attraction belong in the pews, the sacrament table, and the circle of fellowship.
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FAIR Latter-day Saints

Same-sex attraction and the restored Church

FAIR Latter-day Saints

Critics often force a false choice: either the Church must redefine marriage, or it must hate people. Scripture allows neither. The law of chastity is the same law Paul, Jesus, and the Book of Mormon teach. Pastoral care is the same law John 13 teaches. Members are not asked to pretend attraction is chosen, and they are not asked to set aside revelation so that desire can baptize itself as doctrine.

The Church’s teaching on marriage has not been invented to exclude a modern identity. It is the biblical and restored doctrine of covenant, applied with the commandment to love.

  • Compassion is a commandment; rewriting the sealing ordinance is not compassion.
  • Many faithful Saints live with same-sex attraction and keep covenants with the Savior’s help.
  • The Restoration does not offer a ‘cure’ program; it offers the gospel, the sacrament, and a community of Saints.
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